Someone I am close to just had a baby about a week ago. She and the baby are both doing fine. The new mom is a bit stressed, and has needed some extra support from friends and family. This was her first baby, and learning to be a parent has been a challenge.
I have offered to help with the baby on several occasions this past week. I have watched the baby while the new mom gets some needed sleep. Two hours of sleep goes a long way when she can get it.
The baby’s father is not in the picture. Sadly, he is showing no interest in making his presence in the baby boy’s life a priority. Too bad for the guy, he is missing out.
Meanwhile, I feel like I am bonding with the baby. I use a calm tone to talk to him, and reassure him that he is safe. I have no trouble changing a diaper, or bottle feeding him when he is hungry. Now, if I can just perfect the art of the perfect burping technique.
Some of my friends are wondering if I am getting hit by the baby bug.
I have made it clear to my friends and my family that I had given myself a deadline of my 28th birthday to fall in love and marry, and have kids. I felt then like after 28, I would be an old man by the time my kids reached those years where I would need to be able to throw a ball, and other athletic feats of strength.
Well, my 28th birthday has long since passed me by, and I am content to know that I am not going to be a father.
Will spending time with this newborn baby make me rethink my stance? I do not think so. I mean, I am only spending a couple of hours here and there with him. It’s not like I have done an overnight where he has to be fed and changed in the middle of the night. That alone might keep the bug from really biting me.
Somehow the baby has affected me. Maybe it is his arrival at a time in my life when I am so self-consumed. My rather selfish nature has been turned on its ear as I look forward to offering my time to help watch the baby so the new mommy can rest. I get transfixed on the baby as I hold him, and hope that his future is one where he is healthy, and happy. I hope his mommy grows stronger as a parent, and works hard for him and his future. These thoughts come so naturally to me, and me being such a self-centered man.
The amazing power of babies!